On Creating Space for the Questions That Matter
I have been thinking a lot about silence lately.
Not the uncomfortable kind—the kind that makes you reach for your phone or turn on a podcast. The intentional kind. The kind where you sit with a question long enough to hear the real answer underneath the reflexive one.
Most of us do not create that kind of space anymore. We move too fast. We fill every gap with productivity or distraction. And somewhere in all that motion, we lose track of whether we are moving toward something we actually want or just away from stillness.
I noticed this pattern in myself a few years ago. I was busy. Successful by most measures. Checking boxes. But if you had asked me whether I was living the life I actually wanted, I would have had to sit with that question for a while. And honestly, I was not sure I wanted to hear the answer.
That realization is what led me to create this platform and slowly pivot into what it is today.
The Questions We Avoid
Here is what I have learned about the questions we avoid: they do not go away. They just get louder.
Am I staying in this role because I love it or because I am afraid to change? What would I do if money were not a constraint? When was the last time I felt truly rested? Who in my life actually sees me?
These are not comfortable questions. They require honesty that feels risky. Because once you name what is not working, you have to decide whether you are going to do something about it.
But avoidance has a cost too. You can ignore the questions, but you cannot ignore the consequences of ignoring them. The burnout. The resentment. The quiet grief of watching years pass without intentionally going after what you actually want.
I wanted to create space for those questions. Not in a way that felt overwhelming or abstract, but in a structured way that made it easier to sit with the discomfort and come out the other side with clarity.
So I made a workbook. Sixty questions organized around the five pillars we talk about here all the time—financial stability, career fulfillment, wellness, community, intentional design. Space to write. Prompts to help you identify patterns. Frameworks to move from "something feels off" to "here is what needs to change."
I created it for myself, then tweaked it into something that you can use as well. I am calling it the Design Your Life Workbook.
A New Space Within This Platform
If you have been reading Where Women Thrive™, you know that the newsletter is where I share weekly insights on navigating career, business, and life with more intention. It is the ongoing conversation. The regular touchpoint. The place where we explore ideas together.
I have also been thinking about how to support the women who are ready to go deeper. Who need more than weekly nudges. Who want structured tools they can work through at their own pace.
So I also launched an academy—a separate space for workbooks, guides, and resources focused on implementation. The newsletter is where we explore the ideas. The Academy is where you do the work if you want to.
Every resource will be something I would use myself. Something practical. Something that closes the gap between knowing and doing.
The Design Your Life Workbook is the first. There will be others.
The Work of Designing
I am sharing this here because I know some of you are in that same place I was a few years ago. You know something needs to shift, but you are not sure where to start. You want the space to sit with the hard questions, but you need some structure to work through them.
Whether you use the workbook or not, I hope you create the space for those questions somewhere. In a journal. On a long walk. In whatever way works for you.
Because the life you inherited does not have to be the one you keep living.
You get to design something different.
