Making Space for the Life You Actually Want
There comes a moment—quiet but insistent—when your calendar is full, your to-do list is handled, and yet something still feels off. Not broken. Not dramatic. Just… misaligned.
You might brush it off. Stay busy. Say it’s just a phase.
But then it creeps back in.
And eventually, you start wondering if maybe you’re not behind—you’re just ready for something more.
More doesn’t mean hustle. It doesn’t mean burnout.
Sometimes more means finally making space for the parts of your life you’ve been sidelining. Not because they weren’t important. But because they didn’t scream for attention the way everything else did.
You’ve been showing up. For your job. For your people. For the expectations. But now, it might be time to show up for yourself.
Here’s how to start creating that space:
1. Redefine “Productive” on Your Terms
Let’s get one thing straight: rest is productive. Clarity is productive. Time spent doing nothing but thinking about your next chapter? Wildly productive.
Actionable step: Block out 30 minutes this week on your calendar and label it “white space.” Use that time however you want—rest, walk, write, sit in silence. Don’t fill it. Just honor it.
2. Let Stillness Be a Signal, Not a Threat
When your body and mind start slowing down, it’s easy to panic. To assume you’re losing your edge.
But maybe that stillness is trying to tell you something. Maybe it’s time to listen.
Stillness often precedes clarity. Clarity often precedes change.
Actionable step: Next time you feel the urge to “push through,” pause instead. Journal what you’re feeling. Ask yourself, “What am I avoiding by staying busy?”
3. Make Room Before You Make Plans
We all want lives that feel full—of purpose, connection, joy. But a full life isn’t the same as a full schedule.
Make space before you make plans. That space might reveal what actually needs to come next.
Actionable step: This weekend, cancel one non-essential commitment. Use that time to reflect, reset, or simply do nothing without guilt.
4. Ask the Quiet Questions (and Don’t Rush the Answers)
What part of my life feels the most like me?
Where am I showing up out of habit instead of desire?
What would it look like to lead, not just manage, my own life?
Actionable step: Choose one question and free-write for 10 minutes. Don’t edit. Let whatever is true rise to the surface.
5. You Don’t Have to Burn It Down to Begin Again
You don’t need to reinvent everything. You just need to tune back in.
Refine. Re-align. Reimagine.
Small shifts can make the biggest difference—not just in how you spend your time, but in how your life feels when you’re living it.
Actionable step: Identify one thing that feels off in your current routine. Replace it with something that energizes or grounds you—even if it’s just five minutes a day.
Final Thought:
You’re not behind. You’re not scattered. You’re not late to your own life.
You’re just ready to live it more fully. And it starts by making a little more space for the version of you you’ve been putting off.
She’s ready when you are.
